Opening doors to trust
We have learned to associate the word commitment with obligation and lack of freedom.
Why is it important to reframe concepts? If we want to build a new relationship with ourselves, others, and life in general, it is important to understand the deep meaning of commitment and unlearn what is not part of it.
Commitment is not an obligation or an imposition, it does not limit, it does not blame, it does not take away freedom, it does not manipulate or control.
When someone has to do something by “obligation”, it implies taking action against their own will. This means that the action is triggered by fears or limiting beliefs, which ego masks as external “imposing” agents.
We talk about manipulation when we blame others for the decisions we make. This is another disguise of ego. In reality, it is not that others manipulate us but rather we are manipulable by the decisions of others. The ability to decide, which also includes inaction, belongs to everyone whether these decisions are taken from a place of fear, ignorance, or wisdom.
Those who are unwilling to commit themself by fear of losing freedom, cannot be reliable or trustworthy. The feeling of taking responsibility is often confused with obligation and leads to turning away from commitment.
Nobody grants us freedom; freedom means taking responsibility for our own decisions and the outcomes we get as a result of it.
Commitment opens the doors to trust because it has to do with taking responsibility, learning, respecting, valuing, and being consistent with what is thought, said, and done.
When we speak of commitment from a space of comprehension, we speak of a conscious and voluntary decision to give the best of oneself, to share one’s inner values without restriction or condition, to complement life with the values of others, or for something to flow and unfold in a certain way.
There is always compensation or acquired rights as a result of commitment. This is a universal dynamic that allows everything to be in permanent flow and evolution.
When we commit, we do not take away freedom but complement our life because freedom is an inner experience. Freedom is the ability to make decisions and to take responsibility for the results generated, knowing that any result is the feedback that life puts in front of us showing that there is something to learn.
100% commitment generates 100% satisfaction for all parties involved, the one that generates it, and those around. Someone who is truly committed to their success constantly aims to improve their physical, mental, and spiritual conditions.
We are creators of our own reality so if we share our limitations instead of our internal values, the results presented in our life are the results of ego: deception, frustration, fear, anxiety, stress, suffering, etc. If we chose to share freedom, peace, happiness, and love, then the results are exactly the same correspondences.
When we accept, value, and appreciate the perfection of the present moment, we can easily find the opportunity to give the best of ourselves in any situation or in the presence of anyone involved. We are ready to step into the next level of consciousness because of our commitment to our own journey.
The universe in its perfect order, and by law of affinity, is in charge of gathering energies of the same nature. Whoever aspires to have a life full of peace, happiness, and love, must know how to generate this type of energy and commit to it.
- Gives the best of themself without conditions
- Is ready to learn especially during challenging times
- Seeks a reward for the good of all … beyond ego satisfaction
- Has a broad vision and knows how to recognize the impact of their decision
- Knows how to communicate and generate commitment or is willing to learn how to do it
- Establishes win-win agreements that empower all parties
- Is flexible in designing agreements and is firm about taking responsibility
- Respects others’ experiences, recognizing that energy spent in controlling others, is energy that can be invested more efficiently in personal transformation.
What is your percentage of commitment in each of the following aspects of your life?
- Inner peace
- Family relationships
- Ability to serve
- Physical body
- Couple relationship
What is preventing you from achieving 100% in all of them?