Learning to Accept

Only by understanding the universal law governing the difficulty we face, can we experience the neutrality and power of acceptance.

  • What situations are causing you some kind of fear or suffering?                   
  • What are you not accepting in these situations?            
  • What do you need to understand about these situations?                     
  • How would your life be if you accepted it as it is?         

If we, all human beings, do not want to suffer anymore, then why does suffering continue to be the common denominator in the human history?                      

Suffering as well as the contrast is necessary for human being’s process of evolution. We all agree that it is not pleasant. Nevertheless, if we understand that all that happens in the universe has a purpose of Love, then we can understand the Power of Acceptance.             

It is mandatory to know darkness to be able to recognize light. It is necessary to know what heat is to be able to recognize cold. It is necessary to know sadness to be able to recognize happiness. In the same way, it is necessary to be immersed in dissatisfaction to look for satisfaction.               

As human beings, we look for full satisfaction in our lives and eagerly strive to create ideals. Most people suppose that by reaching these ideals, they can reach total satisfaction and final happiness. However, the result is that once the goal is achieved or even about to be achieved, there are new challenges and new goals on the way.                     

We find ourselves in a permanent fight trying to accommodate the reality of life in our own ideals. We struggle trying to change what is here and now.         

If we can see the ideal on a major scale, we then realize that there is only one universal purpose, to learn to Love...       

...and the opportunity to embark in this journey is always in the present.                 

The power of Acceptance               

“I shall never believe that God plays dice with the world.”  Albert Einstein                

A deep acceptance of the reality of life comes from understanding that the reality of life has two fundamental purposes:           

To develop Consciousness through recognizing the laws that governs the universe. 

To recognize that the teachings presented in each circumstance of the human experience have a purpose: an inner realization that liberates us from suffering.                    

This deep acceptance of the reality of life will give us this wonderful quality of Love: cohabitating with all beings in the Universe, expressing Love constantly and valuing every circumstance in life.                     

If we can understand that every circumstance, which has some level of difficulty for either the mind, feelings, emotions or controlling reactions of the instinct, is a wonderful opportunity to learn and train ourselves in the cultivation of inner Peace, only then are we ready to apply Acceptance and renunciation and be free once and for all from mental conflict and interior suffering.             

How to discern Acceptance from Resignation                  

An interpretation can be misleading, but it can never be the reality of the result. When we can not accept something, we obtain the same inner result of conflict and suffering                  

Resignation happens from believing that we are not capable of changing circumstances. Therefore, resignation leaves constant frustration in our mind. 

Resignation is the dark part of the mind that is tired of useless fighting to accommodate life for its own beliefs.             

When we fall into resignation, we feel powerless while dealing with circumstances in life and feel incapable of fighting any longer.               

Nevertheless, when we stop fighting, even if it is with resignation, we have the possibility to partially recover our own vital energy. This recovery could eventually lead us to understand that more important than suffering is having inner peace.                     

Consequently, at any given moment, the light of comprehension will come to the mind and we will realize that the path to be free from suffering is not out there trying to change the reality of life but rather, inside ourselves trying to change the concept of life.                  

It is only then that we will be transcending the limitation of resignation and be entering in the path of acceptance as a way to get rid of suffering.                      

Tools             

A. Look at the big picture             

When facing any situation that confronts your mind, accept that it is only a process of universal laws like correspondence and evolution, making you a part of the big universal concert! Enjoy it!                        

B. Action                   

When facing any situation that confronts your mind, renounce trying to change it and involving your concepts, beliefs, feelings, and emotions. Do with calm and serenity, whatever you have to do and never react. Act!                      

C. Develop your full potential                    

Difficult situations that life is offering to you were specifically designed for you to be able to overcome and allow you to develop your potential to the fullest. Take advantage of it!             

D. How to recognize you are not accepting?                    

You can find some examples on the next table:   

*RECOGNITION

 

* WHAT AM I NOT ACCEPTING

Refusing life

 

The opportunities to learn from difficulties

Overprotection

 

The mission and destiny experiences that every person has

Perfectionism

 

Different ways of organizing and managing

Worries

 

Loosing something that I don’t need any more

Fanatism

 

Other forms, paths, beliefs, options, different to mine

Anger

 

What others do or say or what is happening

Condemnation

 

Behaviours, attitudes different to mine

Rebelliousness

 

The need to adapt myself to my corresponding place

Distress

 

That I can live differently through losing what I have

Sadness

 

Others’ experiences and behaviors

Criticism

 

Others’ habits, ideas, and decisions

Resentment

 

That others are not responsible for my own experience

Judgment

 

That everyone does the best with what he or she knows

Attachment

 

That anything and/or anyone does not belong to me and that I always have what I need

Stress

 

That there can be different outcomes and that I give only what I can

Fear

 

The possibility of losing what I have or not achieving what I want

Jealousy

 

That I am not anyone’s owner and that only Love can unite us

Guilt

 

That I am not responsible for others experiences

 

* Teachings Gerardo Schmedling

 
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“The only cause of suffering is the inability to accept what is happening” - Gerardo Schmedling

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